Very interesting discussion.
I really didn't read everything but think I have the gest of the conversation. While I would really like for Auggy to be right, it's hard to discard all the verses that don't appear to agree. Since I take the scriptures literally everywhere they are presented in a literal way, I just can't accept it. It is a very interesting doctrine and this has been a good discussion.
The main points being God's love reconciled with God's judgement. I feel Christ's cross was where mercy and truth met. God in His love wanted to show mercy and grace but God in His HOLINESS, couldn't just excuse sin. So the goodness of God is shown completely in Christ, who was sent, being God's Son, to be the reconciliation of God to man and vice versa. But the reconciliation takes place when man accepts God's gift of salvation. The rejection of that gift (Gods provided salvation through His son) brings condemnation.
So, to me, God's love and judgement equally co-exist. God wants all men to receive His Son. Yet men refuse. Thus sealing their own fate. Was God not good to them? I would say He was VERY good to them. He not only sacrificed His Son for their sin he even gave them some light "God lighteth every man that cometh into the world". So His love is not exclusionary or selective but yet His Holiness could never accept man in his sinful state without the payment of a received Christ.
Mercy and truth met.
Now to the argument that God's love will eventually conquer man's heart even after rejecting Jesus in this life, I find no scripture to support. While it is appealing and I wish it were true, there are many scriptures to the contrary.