Dessa-
I'm sorry you had this experience and that we didn't handle it well. I'm starting up some conversations among admins and board members about how we can better deal with stuff like this.
I completely understand why you are upset and I would have been so mad if it happened to me. I think it is too late to issue a ban, but I'll see if someone would be willing to talk to the beast. He is basically threatening sexual assault which is messed up on so many levels and I would have banned him if I was there. If this happens in the future and I am around please message me immediately. If I am not please pm me, I would like to be kept in the loop
You deserve to feel safe on the server and his attitude is completely unacceptable as is the way we handled it.
Again, I apologize, and I am starting some internal discussions to fix this problem.