Like I said the kicking or banning is only to get the discussion of how to admin out of the game, and into forums. Which is why we are discusiing this here. While I appreciate your thoughts, I still stand by my decision to request that you not use the word, while that guy was playing. If you know something bothers someone, why continue to do it? Its not like the word is something that is needed to communicate. Couldnt the word owned have been substitued? Surely in context it means the same thing, but does not have a negative meaning. Or how about nice try instead?
While I cant speak for any admin other than myself, I usually dont kick for the word rape. I just simply requested that you not use it, in hopes of avoiding confortation. You had already responded back to the guy twice before I asked you to drop the subject, which you did. However, a couple a mins, later you start getting on me for asking that you not use the word. At this point you started distracting from the server, and your exit was assisted.
Sorry, if this is not what you wanted to hear. Just mearly the mindset I was in, and my justification for my actions.