Heh, I always get a kick out of that phrase, "Respect is earned, not given". Its adorable. Its also wrong, and will continue to get you into trouble if you insist on holding on to that idea.
Its really easy. Drop the bravado, stop trying to be right. You have no leverage. You will not win, no matter how right you think you are. Just say, "I'm sorry, I did not mean to rush, I thought I was helping the team. In the future I will be more careful." It does not matter if you feel you have been wronged, or even what the truth is. The phrase, "Life isn't fair" is actually true, and the sooner you realize that the sooner you can just relax and have fun playing this terrible game again lol.
Shaftiel