Dennis February 4, 2003 Share Dennis Member February 4, 2003 i tried to wait; made it till i was a senior in high school, but it just got the best of me. Sometimes its hard to stop and then you just give in, thats what happened to me. Now as far as waiting goes i think you should but if you dont you shouldnt be frowned apon. Ill admit i have had sex a lot but i dont think one should think i am a bad person or anything. Sex can actually be good for you but you should be as safe as you can about it also. I know i am as best as i can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Killer February 5, 2003 Share Killer Member February 5, 2003 Sex can wait...Masturbate! You can masturbate in the privacy of your own home, perfectly safe, any time or as many times as you want without the worry of all the diseases and STD's! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Killer February 5, 2003 Share Killer Member February 5, 2003 Rackish..... in your sig... did I say that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Playaa February 5, 2003 Share Playaa Member February 5, 2003 Sex can wait...Masturbate! You can masturbate in the privacy of your own home, perfectly safe, any time or as many times as you want! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NOFX February 11, 2003 Share NOFX Member February 11, 2003 Sex can wait...Masturbate! You can masturbate in the privacy of your own home, perfectly safe, any time or as many times as you want without the worry of all the diseases and STD's! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TF_Anon February 11, 2003 Share Guest TF_Anon Guests February 11, 2003 Just read through all of this. I am a christian and have been married for almost 8 years now with 2 daughters. I did not wait and would not wait if I had it to do over again. I can still remember the first time I had sex in High School. It sucked. Neither of us knew what we were doing and fumbled it up. It was fun though, just not good. I see people saying "You do not know what bad sex is so how can you judge". Well you watch TV, movies, etc....so you all have a pretty good idea what sex entails and what it should feels like so you do have some basic conceptions and the first time will most likely not meet those expectations....just my opinion. I had sex quite a few times with different women before I met my wife. Am I sorry I had sex all those time? No. Do I remember all the girls and their names? No, unfortunately. My personal opinion is that if you are two single, consenting people you should knock yourself out and have fun, not literally, figuratively. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gunman February 11, 2003 Share Gunman Member February 11, 2003 <hump hump> *I don't like what you said (combined with your avatar at least ).....I'll leave it but keep it less..............like.........that next time* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shadow Slayer February 12, 2003 Share Shadow Slayer Member February 12, 2003 well if all you had to go on was the smutt on television then every relationship would be disapointing. i personally dont have a tv. (i know i know im a weirdo right?) but you know what? not having a tv has made me a better reader and from loving to read sprang a love to write so i think it was much better for me not to have one. cause i know if i did all i would do is sit and watch it all day long non stop. but not having a tv i dont have all these preconceved ideas about what sex should or shouldnt be so i can honestly say that if i wait till im married to have sex i wont have a disapointment when she dosnt turn out to be as good as some porn star. all im saying is no i dont have those pre conceived ideas about how it should be and yes i wont have anything to compare it with so yes i will be happy with it even if in somone elses opinion it wasnt that great. S.S. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jiffy February 12, 2003 Share Jiffy Member February 12, 2003 i didnt wait...im only soph in high school. i know people say love doesnt mean anything in HS and that it wont last, but i mean my friends grandparents met in 6th grade, go figure lol. my gf and i have had long talks about it and both knew what we were getting into. she is on the pill for back pains and we still use condom just to be safe, better than sorry. she is ultimately my best friend, not just a lover. if i hadnt met her, i probably would have waited until college(dont ask why, just sounded like the time to do it lol). but im glad i didnt. not only fun, but brought us so much closer. I dont know, its still confuses me how a physical act can have so much mental force behind it....i truly plan on staying with my gf for as long as humanly possible, as she does with me. i respect and somewhat admire the people that wait, sometimes i wonder if i should have, but when it comes down to it, life is short, make the best of it. which i do each and everyday when i go home walking hand in hand... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Playaa February 12, 2003 Share Playaa Member February 12, 2003 well Jiff.....I've actually never been in that position... so I can't speak from experience.....but I can say that opinions, feelings, emotions, etc, they all change with time......you're only a sophmore in high school you say.... when I look back to myself as a sophmore (which was only 5 years ago) I was a COMPLETELY different person. I still stick by the belief that sex outside of a marriage has the potential to cause more pain than is necessary. sure there will be those times when it doesn't cause ANY pain...but the possibility of screwing my life up that bad isn't worth the fun for that small amount of time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gunman February 12, 2003 Share Gunman Member February 12, 2003 hmmm....this topic is...well...different... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heartless February 12, 2003 Share Heartless Member February 12, 2003 why not have sex before marriage? would u wanna marry someone and find out that they aren't any good in bed? Sex is a powerful thing that brings 2 people together emotionally, physically, spiritually.. in every single way. Of course it does bring more pain when the relationship doesn't work out, but u can't love truly and purely until u've been heart broken. I don't think sex should be thrown around with one night stands and what not.. but people do what they gotta do to stay satisfied. I'm not married, and way too young to think about it.. but I've had sex with a couple different guys (don't think im a whore, cause im not) every single guy I thought I was in love with and wanted to spend the rest of my life with at the time.. its was stupid puppy love. I get tested every year for STDs and I'm usually with my boyfriend or girlfriend a good 2 months before I do anything sexual with them, so I usually know where they have been. Lucky me I've only dealt with virgins, which is always fun cause ur always their best and ull always be the one they'll remember.. hehehe. Now do I regret having sex with the first guy I did.. of course. But that was because of the age thing and the way we met and broke up.... if I could do it over again I'd want to save my virginity for the guy I love now, but I'm sure as soon as I'm over him and love someone new, I'll wish the same thing about that guy/girl. No matter what you're going to regret your first time at least a little.. so why not regret doing it with someone u never have to see again after ur married? (for all u who have read other posts by me.. u know i talk about my ex a lot well get ready for some more..) I was my ex's first, though he wasn't mine... and personally I think i taught him a lot.. Jiffy's right, its a simple physical act that humans need to do to keep the species alive but when you love the person (even if you only love them for a little while) sex can be the most powerful thing in the world. After having sex with a few guys before my ex I didn't really like sex all that much, it was fun but I could do with out.. and after I had sex with Alonie (my ex) and I felt the strong connection between us, I love sex.. but only with him. Even after not being together for 5 months now him and I still have sex, and neither of us have done anything with anyone else.. not because we can't get any.. simply because we don't (or at least I don't) want to. He's the only one I enjoy being with now, because of that amazing connection we gained from having sex. He was my best friend at the time, and even after a rough break up.. he still is my best friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Playaa February 13, 2003 Share Playaa Member February 13, 2003 Heartless.........in your first paragraph you asked why not have sex before marriage..............in the next 2 you answered it perfectly...... do you think you would have had so much pain (and such long lasting pain) if you hadn't had sex with Alonie? (and didn't continue to have sex with him) as to the good in bed thing.......that's been answered many times in this topic...if there is nothing to compare against then there is no "bad" or "good".....just sex....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TF_FSoul February 13, 2003 Share Guest TF_FSoul Guests February 13, 2003 if there is nothing to compare against then there is no "bad" or "good".....just sex.......That is wrong Playaa. There is such a thing as just bad sex. I'm usually with my boyfriend or girlfriend a good 2 months before I do anything sexual with them woot...go Heartless!! hehe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Playaa February 13, 2003 Share Playaa Member February 13, 2003 are you serious soul? did you even read what I just said? tell me how myself as a virgin can call sex either good or bad.....? cause seriously I wanna know........if you don't know about something you can't judge something.... if I showed you 2 Pigmy Marmosets and asked you which one was the older one could you tell me?..............probably not because you don't know HOW to tell the difference..........just like sex..........without experience I'm sure it's ALL gonna be good..... if you don't see that then I don't think you understand what I'm saying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TF_FSoul February 13, 2003 Share Guest TF_FSoul Guests February 13, 2003 Wrong Playaa. I had my first sex with my girlfriend in high school...ohhh so many years ago and it was Bad. We were both virgins but we still had expectations, everyone has expectations. If you are trying to tell me you have NO expectations when you have sex for the first time then I would have to call you a liar. Part of having sex is seeing if those expectations were correct. YOu watch TV, or read books, or talk to friends, or see victoria secret catalogs....you know what sex is supposed to be like so you hop in bed that first time with a head full of what it SHOULD be like. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magruter February 13, 2003 Share Magruter Member February 13, 2003 Guys I just want you to remember one thing and one thing only, There's no sex in the champaign room!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magruter February 13, 2003 Share Magruter Member February 13, 2003 Corn Bread, Ain't nothing wrong with that!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Playaa February 13, 2003 Share Playaa Member February 13, 2003 you know what sex is supposed to be like so you hop in bed that first time with a head full of what it SHOULD be like. FSoul you're right that we all have preconceved ideas about sex...however I realize that sex with my wife is not going to be like sex on TV or sex in movies...I understand this... and I also know that when you want something badly...and force yourself to wait for it...it makes the rewards oh so much sweeter... I'm sorry if I didn't make my point correctly...I know that ppl see sex on tv and think that is what sex should be like...well myself I see sex on tv and think I'm glad I'm going to have better sex than that with my wife...and the reason it's going to be better is because it's with my wife...the one person I love and will love forever... (sorry if this offends anyone but...) that's the difference between having sex...and making love... I'm probably NEVER going to "have sex"....but I'm definatly going to make alot of love... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TF_FSoul February 13, 2003 Share Guest TF_FSoul Guests February 13, 2003 and the reason it's going to be better is because it's with my wife No - The reason it is better is because you are doing it with another person instead of watching it on TV. Although Porn adds some flavor to a marriage as well. LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Playaa February 13, 2003 Share Playaa Member February 13, 2003 are you just trying to disagree with everything I say? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TF_FSoul February 13, 2003 Share Guest TF_FSoul Guests February 13, 2003 Not really. Just trying to bring some humor in. Sex is not always such a serious thing. Many people each day have sex for fun, sex with groups of people and sex alone. There is way too much seriousness in this topic so I thought to lighten it up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jiffy February 13, 2003 Share Jiffy Member February 13, 2003 soul, i congrat u on that attempt...well done. i have changed greatly in a matter of only a year. i agree, people do change, which can be more obvious in some cases than not. but i changed along with my gf. it was a personal growth, but so did she, and we just became stronger together. we have been friends before lovers, and i know that even if we broke up, we could still be best of friends. so i dunno, i guess i feel safe, and have no reason to worry...worrying only gets you to places you worry about... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Playaa February 14, 2003 Share Playaa Member February 14, 2003 Sex is not always such a serious thing...............There is way too much seriousness in this topic so I thought to lighten it up. just because it's not a serious thing to you doesn't mean everyone feels that way...........but as long as you keep it clean and don't try to take it off topic....lighten it up as much as you want* the statement "lighten it up as much as you want" in reality means "lighten it up no more than I think neccessary" btw....I consider this to be an EXCEPTIONALLY serious topic.......I believe the worlds view of "sex for fun" causes alot of the societal problems today. (i.e. disease, rape...etc.) I'm pretty sick of hearing ppl talk about sex in such a light matter. But then again I'm sick of hearing ppl talk about alot of things.... THAT'S IT!!! I'M MOVING TO ANTARTICA!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TF_FSoul February 14, 2003 Share Guest TF_FSoul Guests February 14, 2003 You need a good dose of the Playboy channel Playaa. hahaha. You want to wait until you are married....great, I am happy for you. If you think you will hop in bed for sex that first time with no expectations then you are wrong, but time will show which one of us is right. I have been married for awhile now and my wife is still fine with letting me hit the occasional strip bar with the guys. These are places that are a LOT of fun. I have thrown a couple bachelor parties and hired strippers to my house and my wife has never had a problem with any of that....as long as I am not having sex with anyone but her. I am not sure why you consider sex such a serious matter, but that is your right, I am just expressing my opinion that it is fun and should be enjoyed as a fun time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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